12.13.2012

Roadtrip: Playlist.

So, I'm in the process of making a playlist for my drive to Dallas (cause 8 hours without a variety of music is death.)
This is what I have so far. When I finish it, I'm going to make it downloadable.
  • 4 AM | Melanie Fiona 
  • Poetic Justic | Kendrick Lamar (ft. Drake) 
  • Ball | T.I (ft. Lil' Wayne) 
  • Believe | David Banner (ft. Big K.R.I.T) 
  • Best Thing I Never Had | Beyonce 
  • Clique | Kanye West (ft. Big Sean & Jay-Z) 
  • Dawn on Me | Jeremih (ft. 50 Cent) 
  • Diamonds | Rihanna 
  • Don't Panic | Meek Mill (ft. Rick Ross & Yo Gotti) 
  • Druggys WitH Hoes Again | ScHoolboy Q ft. Ab-Soul 
  • Fuckin' Problems | A$AP Rocky (ft. 2 Chainz, Drake & Kendrick Lamar) 
  • I Don't Like (Remix) | Chief Keef (ft. Pusha T, Kanye West, Jadakiss & Big Sean) 
  • Ima Read | Zebra Katz (ft. Njena Redd Foxx) 
  • My Hoes They Do Drugs | King L (ft. Juicy J & Pusha T) 
  • Lost | Frank Ocean 
  • Mercy | Kanye West (ft. Big Sean, Pusha T & 2 Chainz 
  • Neva End (Remix) | Future (ft. Kelly Rowland) 
  • No Worries | Lil' Wayne (ft. Detail) 
  • Pop The Trunk | Yelawolf 
  • She Will | Lil' Wayne (ft. Drake) 
  • Poppin' Bottles | T.I (ft. Drake) 
  • Sleepy Hollow | Ace da Vinci (ft. AJ) 
  • Spend It | 2 Chainz 
  • Super Freak | Young Jeezy (ft. 2 Chainz) 
  • The Only Think I Know | Chief Keef (ft. Fedy) 
  • Val Venis | King Louie 
  • Yuck | 2 Chainz (ft. Lil' Wayne) 
  • Enough of No Love | Keyshia Cole (ft. Lil' Wayne) 
  • Backseat (Freestyle) | Kendrick Lamar 
  • I Don't Like | Yasiin Bey 
  • Nibiru | Ab-Soul 
  • Party | ScHoolboy Q
  • Boomerang | AJ 

12.12.2012

About.


Aloha. Bonjour. Hola :]



My name is Shani. I like to blog, a lot, about pretty much anything.
I have some really amazing friends who have blogs focused on one certain thing, but I don't have the attention span for that, so this is simply a little bit of everything.



The Proper Placement is where I'll update my journey finding myself and if/when I figure out what I want to do. I'll also share recipes/tips/videos/some fashion (maybe).



Hope you enjoy!



Revamps & Such.

Aloha :]

It's been awhile, but I'm still here, doing everything that I was doing before (working and sleeping mostly).

Anyways, it's 13 days before Christmas and I am absolutely excited. I'm going to drive to Dallas and visit some friends and spend it with them. 

In other news, Starting early January (hopefully), I want to start getting the word out more about this blog and everything I'll be posting about on here:

  • Reviews (music, movies, products, TV Shows & more)
  • Fashion posts (me finding my style)
  • Projects
  • Recipes
I want to also use this blog to introduce ... well, for now, I'm keeping that to myself, but I promise it's interesting.

Hope the few people that stumble across this are having a lovely week and have a great holiday. 

Until another time, Aloha!
- The Proper Place

10.19.2012

If there's more than one person involved in a situation, its not possible for everything to be one persons fault. Each person is to blame. That isn't to say the blame is equal.

Love & Scandal Pt. II

So, I didn't really delve into it in the last post because I was out of time, but I wanted to talk about Fitz. I know it's easy to place blame and judge if you aren't in the position he's in, and I hope I never am. He never went looking for her, and I don't believe people who are in his position in similar situations ever do. They never aim to hurt who they're with, most people don't intend on hurting the ones they love, or once loved. In his case, in my opinion anyways, he found comfort in someone who was there. Whether he found something in her he may not have felt/experienced with Milly in a really long time, or something else, he fell for her.
In normal situations, falling in love is one of the scariest, best things that you can experience. Lucky, he got to experience it twice, unfortunately, the timing was horrible. Milly is still in love with him, at least she thinks she is.
I feel so bad for him and anyone who may have found themselves in the position, because there's always a loser in the situation. In his, he let's Liv go and finishes his term and maybe gets another and has to live with his wife, who he fell out of love with a long time ago. Milly gets her man, physically, but his heart and soul are somewhere else and she knows, and has to live with the choices she made. Olivia throes herself into her job and watches the man she loves walk away when neither wanted to let go. Everyone loses.

Love & Scandal.

I have a really bad habit of comparing my love life (or any aspect of my life I see fit) to certain characters in shows I watch. If you don't watch Scandal [or haven't caught up, this contains spoilers, kind of]

I just finished watching the most recent episode of Scandal and I started thinking about how a lot of people I know (and myself) either strive to be one of the characters or end up being like them, unintentionally. Each character is played perfectly, and they're great at what they do, but all of their personal lives are fucked up.

President Fitz is the most powerful man in the world, supposedly, but ever since season one, he's lost. His marriage was over long before Olivia came into the picture, but divorce is not what the POTUS does, especially while he's in office, so he stays in this fruitless relationship for show. Then he meets someone who he genuinely loves [right person too late?]. Instead of making a decision, he is selfish [or tries to please everyone, depending on how you look at it] and they continue to pursue each other. He knows he needs to let her go, but he can't, at least not as of yet.
Olivia does her job, and she does it well. She's a powerhouse, and that's one of the reasons Fitz falls in loves with her, but she knew he was married and for awhile, she tried to fight it, but then she gave in to how she felt. Then she tries to do the right thing and stop it, but he's her weakness, her exception. She loves him, and you can tell she hates herself for it. She finally tells him that he needs to let her go.

Milly is the First Lady, and she's probably the worst of all. She knows about Olivia, but for the most part, she refuses to acknowledge that there's no love and no communication. She's more focused on her career anyways, and she seems to take pride in the fact that even though it's just on paper and mostly for show, she gets to call herself Mrs. Fitz. She dangles it in Olivia's face on occasion, but mostly, you can see the bitterness seeping out of her pores. She's the type of person who bullies people [passively or directly, depending on the person] into doing what she wants. She gets pregnant to not only put them ahead in the campaign, but to show Olivia what she could never have. She's the type of person who you'd probably hear say "If I can't have them, no one can".  She finally tells him "Her or Your Career/Reputation".

I know people who fall into these "categories" and it sucks. No one* wants to be the "Other Woman". Don't get me wrong, there are people who are and know they are, and say they don't mind, but I doubt that people strive to be settled for, or put on the back burner, or want to feel like they aren't good enough to be a priority. I also don't know of anyone who really wants to become the bitter, hateful bitch, that holds on to fragments of something past because they can't face the reality of the situation, that have to resort to blackmail and other things just to have someone. 

Lastly, no one chooses to fall in love with someone, at least not really. If you connect with someone, you connect with them. However, you can choose to pursue your connection, and that's choice those two made, knowing that there were other people involved who would have to live with the decisions they made. 

No one should have to settle, and if you're unhappy with something, make a choice to change it. It's my hopes that I never end up in a situation where I can become a Fitz, Olivia and definitely not a Milly. If I do, I hope I have the heart to make the right decision, even if it may not benefit me in the way I'd hope.

*there are some people who do enjoy being the other woman, enjoy knowing that they are part of ruining a family, household. I'm not saying they are completely at fault, because there was another party involved in making that decision, but I don't believe they started that way.